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Assertiveness Skills Blogs

Assertiveness is a special communication style that occupies the middle ground between “Coming on too strong” and “Not coming on strong enough”.

Some people are too pushy, and they tend to come on too strong: they seem aggressive or overassertive. The results is that other people move away from the overassertive, (aggressive) personality.

On the other hand, some people are too timid. They lack assertiveness. Their message is too weak to make an impact.

The middle ground is the right amount of assertiveness. Assertiveness has three components:

  • Assertive words and phrases
  • Assertive body language
  • Assertive voice tones

The assertive use of words means developing speech habits that convey strength but are at all times polite and respectful. Assertiveness means avoiding words and phrases that are too aggressive, such as “You had better…….”.

And it means avoiding words that are too passive, such as, “Sorry, but I think this might…..”

The assertive use of body language includes the proper: Posture, Hand gestures, Hand shake, Eye contact, facial expression, proximity and orientation.

The assertive use of voice tones means the proper volume, (how loud or soft) the proper pitch, ( how shrill or base) the proper pace ( How fast or slow) and the proper emphasis.

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  • Don't Let Them Get to You

    09 September 2016

    Don't Let Them Get to You Don't let other people's negative comments get to you. Don't let them get you down. Some people you know will have a tendency to be negative and pessimistic; not only in relation to their own future, but also in relation to your chances and your... Continue Reading >

    Don't Let Them Get to You
  • How Assertive are You?

    09 June 2015

    Assertiveness Assertiveness is a form of communication that allows you to communicate your message in a confident, firm, and professional manner, so that you can either; Make your point clearly heard; or Deter the other person from trying to overwhelm you, with their more aggressive manner. Assertiveness is to be contrasted... Continue Reading >

    How Assertive are You?
  • Emotional Intelligence Training

    04 August 2014

    Emotional Intelligence Training In any given situation, how you feel emotionally, strongly affects how you act. You would agree with me on that, wouldn't you? If you feel like a winner, then you will be more likely to win. If you feel like a loser, then you will be more likely... Continue Reading >

    Emotional Intelligence Training
  • How to Develop a More Attractive Personality

    31 December 2013

    Develop a more attractive personality Question: Would you like to be more attractive? Most of us would. Most of us would like it if we could attract more people. We would like to attract more customers; we would like to attract employers, members of the opposite sex, and we would like... Continue Reading >

    How to Develop a More Attractive Personality
  • What is Assertiveness Training?

    18 December 2013

    What is assertiveness training? Assertiveness training is training that will teach you the skills you need, in order to find the, "middle ground", between being too "meek and mild", on the one side, and being too aggressive and rude, on the other side. The middle ground between being "too soft" and... Continue Reading >

    What is Assertiveness Training?
  • How can I Stop Myself From Worrying So Much?

    08 May 2013

    How can I stop myself from worrying so much? On a recent training course, I was asked by one of the delegates, a man called Reese, a question that I hear many people asking; "How can I stop myself from worrying so much?" Reese continued, "In one way I NEED to... Continue Reading >

    How can I Stop Myself From Worrying So Much?
  • Five Principles of Confident Communication

    18 April 2013

    Five principles of confident communication Are you a confident communicator? Or do you sometimes say to yourself, "I know what I mean, but I can't explain it?" Do you sometimes feel nervous when you are expected to express yourself to a group of other people? If you lack confidence as a... Continue Reading >

    Five Principles of Confident Communication
  • Where can I Find a Good Assertiveness Training Course?

    01 March 2013

    Where can I find a good assertiveness training course? A good assertiveness training course will be able to help you to tread the middle ground between being, "too meek," on one side, and being, "too pushy", on the other side. You need to be able to stand your ground and make... Continue Reading >

    Where can I Find a Good Assertiveness Training Course?
  • Interpersonal Communication Skills Training

    20 February 2013

    Interpersonal communication skills training Interpersonal communication skills training is training designed to improve your ability to gain the cooperative help and understanding of others. Interpersonal communication skills training is important for some of your people, because some of your people, who are technically proficient, are not proficient at handling other people... Continue Reading >

    Interpersonal Communication Skills Training
  • A Simple Way to Gain Confidence

    14 September 2012

    A simple way to gain confidence How to gain more confidence Most people would benefit from having more confidence and less fear. What you may not know is that there is a simple two-word phrase that you can use to be the source of strength and more confidence. The same phrase... Continue Reading >

    A Simple Way to Gain Confidence
  • 5 Steps to More Confidence

    08 May 2012

    Five steps to help you gain more confidence Confidence is a positive emotion based on the thought that you are able to master the problems that face you. Example: Mohamed Ali always controls his mind so that he projects the idea that he is able to master the problems and challenges... Continue Reading >

    5 Steps to More Confidence
  • How to Create More Self-Confidence and Energy

    01 February 2012

    How to create more self-confidence and energy Self-confidence is the result of believing that you DO possess the necessary attributes that will allow you to successfully achieve the tasks that you must. Self-confidence then is based on self-belief. If you believe that you will win then your confidence increases. If you... Continue Reading >

    How to Create More Self-Confidence and Energy
  • How to Maintain your Confidence During Tough Times

    15 July 2011

    How to maintain your confidence during tough times Confidence is a valuable asset. That is literarily true. Since the major currencies severed the link to the gold standard, the value of a pound sterling or a dollar or a Euro is based on the amount of "confidence" the purchaser has in... Continue Reading >

    How to Maintain your Confidence During Tough Times
  • Management Training - Overcoming the Fear of Failure

    14 December 2010

    Management Training: Overcoming the Fear of Failure Managers, trainers and leaders must understand the fear of failure: There is one common factor that stops people from expressing their full potential. It is this: The fear of failure Many people say to themselves: "If I were to set a goal, and fail... Continue Reading >

    Management Training - Overcoming the Fear of Failure
  • Assertive Vs Aggressive

    10 July 2009

    Assertive vs Aggressive People often ask me how they can tell the difference between Assertiveness and Aggressiveness You need to be assertive You must not be aggressive So, you should know the difference. Assertiveness Assertiveness is a form of communication that is rational, based on a logical interpretation of the facts... Continue Reading >

    Assertive Vs Aggressive
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