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Know When to Stop

Learn to know when to stop waiting, talking, eating, working and resting. Simple self-control tips help you act now, listen more, avoid burnout, restore balance

Chris Farmer, Founder of Corporate Coach Group

“Success rests on one skill: know when to stop. Act instead of waiting, listen instead of talking, eat with care, work then rest, rest then work. Self-control turns effort into gain and keeps burnout away.”

Chris Farmer — Founder, Corporate Coach Group

Know When to Stop

Know When to Stop

One of the most important things we all should learn to do is to: Know when to stop.

NOT knowing when to stop is the cause of very many failures.

In history, there are very many famous examples of when NOT knowing when to stop, caused the person to carry on too far, and that lead to their ultimate failure.

For example:

  • Napoleon Bonaparte did not know when to stop and that lead to his military defeat.
  • Margaret Thatcher did not know when to stop and that lead to her political defeat.

In both cases, they did not know when to stop; so they went too far; and were ultimately, stopped by others.

You too need to know when to stop...

  • Waiting for things to change.
  • Talking too much.
  • Eating too much.
  • Working too much.
  • Resting too much.

1. You need to know when to stop waiting for things to change

Many people are holding off taking action: they are waiting for circumstances to be more favourable.

John says, "Before I make the changes, I want to get Christmas out of the way. But then, there is New Year; so maybe, I'll start next year. But then, I need to take into account that there is a general election in the spring and there might be a change of government; so maybe I had better wait until after the general election before I really, swing into action..."

My point is this; Don't wait for change. Instead, "Do what you can, with what you have, where you are"; (which is a good quote from Theodore Roosevelt).

Don't wait for change. Instead, be the agent of change.

2. You need to know when to stop talking too much

Too many people talk too much and listen too little.

Let me ask you a question: Have you ever said too much in an argument with a loved one, or at work with a colleague, have you ever lost your cool, and said something that made the situation worse?

Most of us have had experience of saying the wrong thing, at the wrong time. You may need to learn when to stop talking and instead, to listen.

3. Eating too much

We are all encouraged to over eat. Advertisements show us what delicious foods are available. There are cakes and chocolate, and biscuits and crisps everywhere we go. And cookery shows on TV and celebrity chefs, and Christmas celebrations and fast food outlets everywhere.

If you are not fully conscious of how much you consume, then the chances are that you will consume too much. As a nation we are overweight.

According to the Lancet medical journal; in the UK, 67% of men and 57% of women are either overweight or obese. And more than a quarter of children are overweight or obese.

You need to be aware of your intake and know when to stop eating.

4. You need to know when to stop working

Many people work hard and long. They get up early and they stay up late. This is, in many respects, very good and admirable; but I want to draw your attention to the fact that it is unsustainable over the long stretch.

You need to recuperate and recover. If you keep taking out from your physical and mental energy, but don't build in enough rest periods that will allow for adequate recovery and growth, then you will eventually hit burn out, and will suffer negative consequences.

You need to know when to stop working and take a rest.

5. You need to know when to stop resting

The same point applies on the other side too. You need to know when to stop resting and get back to work.

Yes. You do need a tea break, but your tea break is 15 minutes long, not 35 minutes. You do need a lunch break; but your lunch break is 45 minutes; not 90 minutes. You do need to chat to colleagues about their kids, but not for too long.

You need to say to yourself and others, "Let us get back to work!"

You need to know when you have had enough rest, sufficient for recuperation and growth, and when it is time to go back to work.

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knowing when to stop

Context: Personal effectiveness. Genus: principle. Differentia: 1. Needs steady self awareness of aim, progress and risk. 2. Demands a clear choice to end an act or thought at the best point. 3. Stops waste of time, energy or respect. 4. Guards long-term balance in health, work and life.

CG4D Definition

Context: Personal effectiveness
Genus: Principle

  • Needs steady self awareness of aim, progress and risk
  • Demands a clear choice to end an act or thought at the best point
  • Stops waste of time, energy or respect
  • Guards long-term balance in health, work and life

Article Summary

Success rests on one skill: know when to stop. Act instead of waiting, listen instead of talking, eat with care, work then rest, rest then work. Self-control turns effort into gain and keeps burnout away.

Chris Farmer, Founder of Corporate Coach Group

Written by Chris Farmer

Founder & Lead Trainer, Corporate Coach Group

Chris Farmer is the founder of the Corporate Coach Group and has over 25 years experience designing and delivering leadership and management training across both the public and private sectors. His programmes are structured, practical and built around real-world performance. Read more about Chris and the story of how the Corporate Coach Group was founded.

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Key Statistics

NHS Digital reports that 63.8% of adults in England were overweight or obese in 2022.

The 2023 Microsoft Work Trend Index found that 51% of UK staff feel burned out at work at least once a week.

Frequently Asked Questions

Common questions about this topic

It means spotting the point where action turns unhelpful, then choosing to pause or change course.
Decide on one small step you can take now with what you have; then do it before doubts grow.
Extra words can raise tension, hide key points and block you from hearing others, so problems grow.
Track portions, note hunger levels, and watch waist size; if clothes feel tight, cut back.
Take a short break every 90 minutes and plan days off each week to let body and mind recover.
Aim for about 15 minutes for tea and 45 minutes for lunch, then return to tasks fresh.
Ask yourself, “Will one more minute help or hurt?” If hurt, stop and switch focus.

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