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How to Develop your Personality

How to Develop Your Personality

How to develop your personality

Your personality is your greatest asset, or your worst liability.

A person with a bad personality, is likely to become a social, economic and physical failure.

If you have a good personality, then that will lead you to social, material, psychological and spiritual success.

Therefore, it is advantageous to develop your personality, by working on four major elements:

  1. Your self-image.
  2. Your thought habits.
  3. Your communication.
  4. Your actions (behaviours).

Here are a few thoughts to consider for each.

1. Your self-image.

Your self-image is the sum of all the thoughts, feelings and beliefs you have, about WHO you really are, what you are capable of, and where you fit in to the social hierarchy.

It is important to think well of yourself, to regard yourself as an intelligent, capable and moral person.

You always act in accordance with your self-image. Therefore, your self-image has a major impact on your personality and your results.

Regarding your relationships with others, your self-image marks the limits of your personal power. If you regard yourself as unimportant and incapable, you become powerless. If you regard yourself as intellectual and capable, you will become more powerful.

So, it will pay you to keep a close eye on your own mind, and encourage yourself to hold your head up high. Empower yourself with a positive self-image and attitude.

2. Your thoughts habit.

In a similar way, what you think about will change your personality.

  • Thinking about how you can make your situation better, will make you feel optimistic.
  • If you think about how the future may be a bad place, you will make yourself fearful.
  • If you think about how the past has treated you badly, you will make yourself angry or upset.
  • Thinking about how the past was better than today, will make you feel nostalgic, and dissatisfied with the present.

Monitor your thoughts and keep them away from excessive thoughts of fear, anger or nostalgia for the good old days.

Make a conscious effort to focus the majority share of your thought energy, into thinking about how to make the future better than the past. This will lead you towards emotions of optimism and positive motivation.

3. Your communication with others.

In a similar way, keep the majority share of your conversations focused upon how you can make the future better than the present.

  • Don't talk too much about your fears for a bad future.
  • Don't talk too much about your anger for what has happened.
  • Refrain from talking too much about how great things were in the good old days.

Remember that your words affect other people and that you can easily talk your way into trouble, without even knowing it.

Keep your language mostly in the positive realms and your words will affect people positively.

4. Your actions (behaviours).

Actuate your self-image, thoughts and language with a series of consistent actions.

Every day, commit yourself to making yourself, your language, your environment, your family and friends better than they were yesterday.

Success is not an event; it is a process.

The process of living is evolutionary and progressive. Each day builds on the achievements of the one before. Your job is to build ever higher levels of success by engaging in a process of continuous improvement in four areas:

  • Yourself
  • Others
  • The systems you operate
  • The society you live in

About the Author: Chris Farmer

Chris

Chris Farmer is the founder of the Corporate Coach Group and has many years’ experience in training leaders and managers, in both the public and private sectors, to achieve their organisational goals, especially during tough economic times. He is also well aware of the disciplines and problems associated with running a business.

Over the years, Chris has designed and delivered thousands of training programmes and has coached and motivated many management teams, groups and individuals. His training programmes are both structured and clear, designed to help delegates organise their thinking and, wherever necessary, to improve their techniques and skills.

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