How to Decide
What to do when you can't decide
When you are faced with a decision to make, here is the best way to approach it:
- State the decision in form of a 'yes or no' question.
- List all the reasons for; then all the reasons against.
- Keep asking 'What else?'
- Always add additional lines to stimulate the mind.
- Decide a weighting system that gives enough flexibility.
- Be honest and objective.
- Add up the numbers and the decision is made.
1. State the decision in form of a 'yes or no' question.
The first step is to reduce the decision to a single line question, which may be answered with a simple Yes or No.
Wording the initial question is the vital step to making a good decision.
Ensure the question is worded in a balanced manner.
Be sure that you do NOT imply a bias in the way you word the question. For example:
Should we destroy our future by doing X or should secure our future by NOT doing X? Is a biased question.
A non-biased version would be: Should we Do-X or Not-Do-X?
2. List all the reasons for and all the reasons against.
List all the reasons for and against the decision.
Ensure that you do not repeat the same point, simply by rewording a single reason in many ways. For example:
I should buy a bigger car, because I need a bigger boot space.
I should buy a bigger car, because I don't want to struggle with carrying my luggage.
3. Keep asking 'What else?'
Keep listing all the reasons for affirming the decision, until your brain runs dry of reasons, or you end up repeating yourself.
4. Always add additional lines to stimulate the mind.
Keep adding unfilled spaces to your list to stimulate your mind to think of more ideas.
5. Decide a weighting system that gives enough flexibility.
We suggest you score all the reasons out of 100.
- 100 means maximum importance.
- 001 means minimum importance.
Score out of 100 every reason FOR X; then every reason for NOT X.
6. Be honest and objective.
Don't cheat yourself by skewing your scores to fit a predetermined opinion, that you had in the back of your mind, before you started the analysis.
7. Add up the numbers and the decision is made.
When you have weighted each reason for both sides of the decision, add up the totals and the decision is made.
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