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How to Change the Way you Feel

How to change the way you feel

How to change the way you feel.

You can change the way you feel by changing what you focus upon.

At any single moment you are surrounded by thousands of things you could attend to.

At the same moment, your mind could think about a million different things from your past, present or future.

How you feel at any given moment, will depend upon what you CHOOSE to focus your mind upon.

  • If you focus on the things that are bad, then you will feel bad.
  • If you focus on the things that are good, you will feel good.
  • If you focus on the things that are terrific, you will feel terrific.

Theoretically, if you were selective in your focus, you could feel terrific, all day, every day; alternatively, if you are selective in your focus you could feel terrible, all day, every day.

And sadly, many people do.

The best way to change how you feel is to become more conscious of what you are focusing your attention upon.

If you don't like how you are feeling, then you can change it, by changing what you are CHOOSING to focus upon.

For example, I recently attended a wedding, that was held in mid-august, in Gloucestershire.

We all expected it to be dry, hot, sunny, summer's day.

But on the morning of the wedding, the sky darkened ominously, the wind blew stronger and cold rain began to fall.

The mood of the family could easily have been negatively affected by the intrusion of bad weather.

But it did not affect the family.

Why? Because the family decided to focus on what WAS terrific:

  • The bride looked terrific.
  • The groom looked terrific.
  • The food was terrific.

In fact, everything was terrific, except the weather. So, we ignored the weather and we focused on what was good.

Be more selective in your mental focus

To redirect your mental focus away from what is bad, and towards other things that are good, is an option always open to everyone.

You can change the way you feel by being more selective in your mental focus.

People who are down on themselves, or down on the world, feel that way because they have adopted a habitual-system of thought, that picks-out what is wrong, in any situation, and they make that wrong thing their main focus.

As a result, they feel bad.

On the other hand, people who are feeling good about themselves and good about the world, feel that way because they have adopted an opposite thought process; one that selects what is good in any situation, and they and make that the main focus of their attention.

As a result, they feel terrific.

You can train yourself to do that and that would change your personal reality.

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