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You can Redefine Yourself

You Can Redefine Yourself

You Can Redefine Yourself

If you want to, you can redefine your personality.

Your personality is defined by your self-image. Your self-image is the sum of all your thoughts, feelings and beliefs about who you are. As you developed from child to adult, you came to believe certain things about your own character. You may have been told that you were "a good boy", "a pretty girl", "a naughty boy", "a stupid child", "a genius child".

Whatever you were told, and whatever you accepted as true about yourself, became a part of your self-image. So your self-image has become vitally important. Because, now you are an adult, you speak, dress, act and react only in ways that are consistent with your self-image.

For example, if you find a wallet in the street, stuffed with cash, and some personal identification of the owner, then whether you keep the cash, or contact the rightful owner would be based on your self-image. If you regard yourself as an honest person, then you would return the cash. If you regard yourself as a non-honest person, then you would keep the cash.

Everything you ever do, and everything you ever say is consistent with your self-image.

You dress in ways that reflect your self-image. You will go to places that reflect your self-image. You would avoid restaurants that don't reflect your self-image. You speak in ways that reflect your self-image.

You succeed in life only as far as your self-image will allow you to succeed.

Therefore, you can see, that your self-image is something that you should consciously work to improve.

Most people do not consciously work on their self-image.

It is more likely, therefore, that your self-image is an unconscious blend of ad hoc influences, that were brought together by chance, but fused into a single entity, by the operation of your subconscious mind, to form a "personal system of habitual thought and feeling", that guides your every action, reaction and response to the situations in which you find yourself.

Since your self-image is so important you need to know what your self-image is.

How can you find out what your self-image is?

You can discover your self-image, by listening to what descriptive words you would feel comfortable putting after the words, "I am....."

For example, would you feel comfortable saying any of the following things?

"I am lucky", "I am a good public speaker", "I am a good driver", "I am a confident person."

These are examples of good self-image statements.

On the other hand, "I am no good at maths", "I am unlucky", "I am not very good looking," "I am shy", are examples of poor self-image statements.

The point is this; Don't be too quick to say derogatory things about yourself, to anyone, especially to yourself.

Here is another good point. Others will tend to estimate you NO higher than you estimate yourself. For example, if you say you are no good at something, the others will tend to mark you down accordingly.

  • If you think you'll lose, you will.
  • If you say you are outclassed, you are.

For example: If you keep telling yourself that you are no good at maths, then you will avoid all situations that require you do maths, and so you will never practice your maths, and so you will never improve your maths, and so you will keep justifying to yourself that you are no good at maths.

Self-doubts become a self-reinforcing system of cause, to effect: effect to cause.

Each time you hear yourself expressing a negative self-image, then consider challenging it.

If you say "I am unlucky"; just reverse it. Say "Sometimes I am very lucky".

If you say, "I'm no good at maths", instead say, "I need to improve my maths".

If you say, "I'm not very creative", instead say, "I need to practice being more creative".

If you say, "I am not a very good reader, instead say, "I am going to practice reading out loud for twenty minutes a day".

In other words, don't accept the limitations that were imposed upon you by others and by yourself as you grew up. You can, and should, consciously be rewiring your subconscious mind to build into it more progressive thoughts about who you are and what you are capable of.

Accept no bad programming. Identify all bad programming from the past, delete the offending files and replace them with life affirming alternatives.

Then you will be happier, healthier, and more productive.

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