The Importance of Self-Control In Leadership

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The Importance of Self-Control in Leadership

Self-control is the foundation of leadership because in order to lead others, you must first learn to lead yourself.

Inside all of us there are three forces competing for control.

1. The force of your intellect, (rational mind).

2. The force of your emotions, (transient moods).

3. Basic Instincts, (fight or flight mechanisms).

What Makes a Good Leader?

Leaders are leaders because they are more mindful.

Leaders operate more on the level of their intellect.

Leaders are NOT so easily taken off track by transient moods.

Leaders are NOT taken off track by their basic instincts.

Leaders subordinate their mood and their basic instincts to their mind.

I call this 'running on reason', or 'mind over mood'.

Leaders are leaders because they don't necessarily do what they feel like doing.

They don't necessarily do what the majority urge them to do.

They don't necessarily do what would make them popular.

They do what is logically necessary to achieve the goal they have. Leaders are mindful.

Have you got what it takes to be a leader?

If you aspire to be a leader, then:

You must control your mood.

You must control your language.

You must control your bad habits.

You have to be able to work when you don't feel like working.

You have to be able to stand firm when you feel like quitting.

You sometimes have to restrain your enthusiasm and stop when you want to keep charging on.

Mind or Mood?

When there is a clash between what your mind says, and what your emotions say, who wins the battle - Mind or mood?

If your mind says, "Don't eat that ice cream. It has too many calories".

And your feelings say, "I really like ice cream. Go ahead. Make my day. Treat yourself".

Then, who wins that battle?

Would you follow the words of the mind, or the mood?

Leaders would follow the mind.

Non-leaders would follow their moods.

It is that simple.

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