Posted 15 July 2011 by Chris Farmer
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How to maintain your confidence during tough times
Confidence is a valuable asset.
That is literarily true.
Since the major currencies severed the link to the gold standard, the value of a pound sterling or a dollar or a Euro is based on the amount of "confidence" the purchaser has in that currency.
Once confidence in a currency is lost, then that form of money reverts to its true intrinsic value of zero!
It is no longer worth the paper it is printed on.
Your personal income, your "value in the market place", is based largely in how much confidence other people have in you: confidence that you can do the job.
If people lose confidence in your ability to add value to them, then you lose your worth- and your finances will suffer accordingly.
Your self-confidence is a major part of your personality profile.
Are you a person with the proper amount of self-confidence?
Self-confidence must be held in the right amount
More is NOT necessarily better. It is possible to be OVER confident. It is possible to be under confident.
The skill is to have the proper amount of confidence in your own abilities.
That is not easy: How do you gain the right amount of confidence?
Here are the steps:
- Improve your knowledge base.
- Never tell yourself that you are stupid.
- Always tell yourself you can if you have:
Enough time to prepare
A good method
- Learn from every error.
- Fake it till you make it!
Improve your knowledge base
Confidence comes from competence. How can you be confident if you don't know what you're doing?
If you DO know what you are doing, then confidence comes much easier..
So study the knowledge you need to do your job better.
Become an incessant reader!
Never tell yourself that you are stupid
Many people undercut their own confidence by telling themselves negative affirmations such as:
- I can't remember names
- I could never make a speech
- I'm no good with figures
Such statements become self-fulfilling.
Never tell yourself or anyone else that you are incapable of learning anything.
Instead, do the following......
Always tell yourself you can
Always tell yourself you can if you have:
- Enough time to prepare
- A good method
Say "I can't do it today, but if you give me sufficient time, I can learn it!"
"Give me the steps and I could do anything."
"Just show me how to do it, give me enough time to practice and I will soon get the hang of it."
Turn your "I can't" statements into "I can, once I have found out how".
Learn from every error
Confidence allows you to take action: but not every action will bring success
Many will not bring success.
In which case you must not lose confidence, but rather treat these NON-winning results as VALUABLE INFORMATION, to be analysed.
From every defeat comes a valuable lesson- if you will learn it.
So you will find that those people who have confidence tend to be more action orientated: confident people reason it out like this:
- If I try and succeed: great.
- If I try and I don't succeed, then I will learn something new and it will improve my next attempt.
- If I try and lose, then at least I tried!
Fake it till you make it!
Sometimes, confidence can be difficult to find. In that case you are free to PRETEND to be confident.
Act as if... you were confident.
Feel afraid; but act as if you are in command.
Once you can do that, you will find that your emotional state will catch up with your actions.
Remember: Confidence comes from doing!
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