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How to be More Self-Disciplined In Six Easy Steps

How to be More Self-disciplined in Six Easy Steps

How to be More Self-disciplined in Six Easy Steps

Self-discipline is making yourself DO the things you have to do, but you don't WANT to.

Self-discipline is also STOPPING yourself doing the wrong things, when you WANT to.

If you want to be more self-disciplined, then do the following:

  1. Think about the painful costs you will suffer, if you don't follow through.
  2. Think about the pleasurable benefits you will enjoy, if you master yourself.
  3. Avoid the company of people who have poor self-discipline.
  4. Hang around people who have good self-discipline.
  5. Just start the task, irrespective of how you feel.
  6. Each time you demonstrate self-discipline, feel good about yourself.

1. Think about the painful costs you will suffer, if you don't follow through.

Nobody likes pain and suffering.

So, if you link pain to the lack of self-discipline, then your brain will avoid a lack of self-discipline.

Think about six answers to the following question:

"What are the painful long-term consequences, a person must suffer, if they lack self-discipline, and they fail to do what they need to do?"

The more pain you associate to not having self-discipline, the better.

2. Think about the pleasurable benefits you will enjoy, if you master yourself.

Now ask the opposite question and think up six answers to the following:

"If you were to develop more self-discipline, and you always do the things you need to do, even if you are not in the mood, then what pleasurable consequences you will enjoy?"

Since everyone likes pleasure and enjoyment, the more answers you can conjure up to this question, the more motivated you will become to be self-disciplined.

3. Avoid the company of people who have poor self-discipline.

Have you heard the phrase, "Birds of a feather flock together"?

If you hang out with the same "go nowhere crowd", then you will soon adopt their "go nowhere" mentality. You will not achieve your goals, and you will never be happy.

So, you may have to make the decision to change the company you keep.

4. Hang around people who have good levels of self-discipline.

Find a small group of people who have more self-discipline and associate with them.

You will soon notice the difference in the way this group think, talk and act.

Pretty soon you will find yourself being positively affected by new, improved mental habits. You will start to change habits by the force imposed by peer pressure.

This new, self-discipline will lead you to engage in actions that will mean more success and happiness.

5. Just start the task, irrespective of how you feel.

If you have ever tried to push a car, you know that the hardest thing is to get it moving.

Once you start the car rolling along, it is much easier to keep it going. And once it is moving, you will find it difficult to stop.

The same is true for the human mind.

When you are at a stop, it is hard to get going - you are suffering from mental inertia.

When the mind is in full swing, it is difficult to stop as you have gained mental momentum.

The message is clear, just get started.

6. Each time you demonstrate self-discipline, feel good about yourself.

You tend to repeat things that bring instant rewards.

Therefore, it is important to immediately reward yourself, each and every time you demonstrate self-discipline.

This is important because the big pay off for being self-disciplined usually come, only after weeks or months of effort, with seemingly NO rewards up front.

So, you need to let your brain know it is on the right track, by rewarding yourself, in some way, each and every time you discipline yourself.

The quickest, easiest and best way is simply to praise yourself for your efforts!

Feel proud of yourself for being the kind of person who is strong enough to master their own bad habits.

As Whitney Houston sang: "Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all"

A simple trick to help you develop more self-discipline.

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