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How can I Improve My Leadership Skills

How can I improve my leadership skills

How can I improve my leadership skills?

Are you looking for ways to improve your leadership skills?

The good news is that Leadership skills can be learned, practiced and improved.

How can you learn and practice leadership skills?

You can start by recognising that leaders MUST be different from non-leaders.

There must be something that separates the leaders from all the non-leaders.

If you could identify what is "the difference that makes the difference", and if you could isolate those differences, and if you could name and then practice those unique leadership skills, then you could improve your own leadership skills.

As you improved your skills you would transform yourself from the class of non-leaders, and place yourself into the class of "leaders".

So what are some of the differences that separate the leaders from the non-leaders?

Here is a suggestion for you to think about:

  • Leaders are very careful about the way they speak. Leaders are careful what they talk about, and they are careful about the way they talk about it.
  • Non leaders are careless about the way they speak. Non leaders are careless with language. They talk about the wrong things and they talk about them in the wrong way.

The point is this: if you want to develop your leadership skills then learn to control your language.

Develop the language of a leader.

Become more careful about the way you speak: become more careful what you talk about, and become careful about the way you talk about it.

Let us be more specific

Leaders are not in the habit of talking for too long about:

  • Their fears
  • Their past mistakes
  • Their defeats
  • Their setbacks and disappointments
  • Their irritations and their annoyances

On the other hand, non leaders spend a lot of their time talking to everyone about:

  • Their setbacks
  • Their illnesses and ailments
  • Their worries
  • Their disappointments
  • Their fears for the future
  • The injustices they have suffered
  • What is wrong with the world

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And they say things like, "It's good to get it off your chest. A problem shared is a problem halved".

To sum up:

Non leaders talk negative:
And Leaders don't.

Leaders are careful not to talk carelessly of such things.

Why?

Because leaders know that: "Whatever you focus your mental energy on will gain energy and will therefore grow stronger".

Whatever you talk about; whatever you focus your energy on, tends to grow stronger. And therefore if you talk about, concentrate upon, think about, your fears, errors, defeats, irritations and worries, then these will grow stronger, in your experience.

Therefore, don't talk about the negative elements with the others in the gang.

Don't talk to people about the negative; UNLESS those people are instrumental in the solution to, or the prevention of, the problem.

To state the same thing in a different way

Talk about your problems only with that small number of people who are instrumental in the solution to the problem.

Generally, Leaders do not brag about their bad luck. They don't moan about their injuries. They don't worry about the future. They don't complain about the situation. They don't bitch, moan and whine.

No

Leaders are far more careful; more skillful, in their use of language.

Here is the point: if you want to be a leader, then do not brag about your bad luck. Don't moan about your injuries. Don't worry about the future. Don't complain about the situation. Don't bitch, moan and whine.

If you want to be a leader what should you talk about?

You should concentrate the conversation on:

  • Your goals
  • Your plans
  • Your ambitions
  • Your ideals

Why?

Because leaders know that: "Whatever you focus your mental energy on will gain energy and will therefore grow stronger".

Whatever you talk about; whatever you concentrate on, whatever you think about tends to grow stronger. And therefore if you talk about, concentrate upon, think about, your goals, plans, ambitions, and ideals, then it is these positive things that will gain energy and it is these that will grow stronger, in your experience.

Therefore you should talk about the positive , rather than the negative.

To repeat: The negative elements should be discussed only with those people who are instrumental in the solution to the problem.

For the most part, put a limit on your tendency to join in with the majority who spend many hours worrying, complaining, moaning and projecting visions of a negative future.

Instead, invest the lion's share of your time and energy talking about your goals, plans, ideals and optimistic visions of the future.

If you were to make that one change, then you would become a better leader because you will inspire a positive, productive, progressive and confident atmosphere, wherever you go.

  • Spend 20%, or less, of your energy on the negative elements of your experience and spend that energy ONLY with the small number of people who are instrumental in the solution to the problem.
  • Spend 80%, or more, of your mental energy talking to the team about your goals, plans, ideals and optimistic visions of a better future.

Here is a phrase for you to memorise and think about:

"The essence of leadership is the proper use of language".

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