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Sphere of Influence

Sphere of Influence

Sphere of Influence

You have three spheres, your...

  1. Sphere of control.
  2. Sphere of influence.
  3. Sphere of concern.

Please note the following facts:

  1. Your Sphere of control is your smallest sphere.
  2. Your Sphere of influence is your middle-sized sphere.
  3. Your Sphere of concern is your biggest sphere.

1. Your Sphere of Control

Your sphere of control contains all the things you can directly control. This is a very restricted list: it contains everything you think, say and do. This is the only thing over which you have direct and unchallengeable control. You control nothing else.

You don't control the weather, you don't control your family, you don't control the traffic, you don't control the customers, or your colleagues or your boss.

You can only control yourself and many people can't even control themselves.

They cannot control their fear.
They cannot control their eating.
They cannot control their language, and so they often say the wrong thing.
They cannot control their bad habits.

Sphere of Influence

Here is the first point I would like you to remember:

Take control over what you can - Take control over your temper, your fears, your eating, your language and your work habits.

The ONLY thing over which you have complete and unchallengeable control is your own self.

2. Your Sphere of Influence

In order to gain more influence, you need to control everything that you can control. If you can control your habits, your tongue and your time, then your influence over other things and other people will increase.

Your sphere of influence contains all the things that you can influence, but NOT directly control.

You can influence, but not control, a much larger set of things: this includes SOME people, (meaning, a small number of people who live in your sphere of influence). Therefore, you have the opportunity to affect how they think, what they say, and what they do.

And in addition, you may have some limited influence over some of the systems that you operate with.

3. Your Sphere of Concern

Your sphere of concern is everything which concerns you, which is the whole planet.

This is a much bigger set; and contains everything that you cannot control and cannot influence. This set includes Mother Nature, international politics, and the actions of 7 billion people.

Don't waste your time stressing yourself over the things you cannot control nor influence. Don't waste your energy on the things that you cannot change.

Focus all your energy on the much smaller number of things you can change.

  • Work on what YOU are going to do.
  • Work on what YOU are going to say.
  • Work on improving YOUR performance.

Remember the famous prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference. (Reinhold Niebuhr)

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