Post-Traumatic Embitterment Disorder Training Course - 2 Days

Post-Traumatic Embitterment Disorder (PTED) is characterised by feelings of embitterment, anger, and other negative emotions. Individuals with PTED often dwell on past injustices, perceiving themselves as victims of other people and events. These persistent negative emotions can significantly impact their quality of life, leading to impaired social and professional relationships and decreased productivity.

PTED is typically triggered by significant life events perceived as unjust or unfair, such as social rejection, injustice, assault, or job loss. Understanding PTED involves recognising these deep thought patterns and their effects on both sufferers and those around them, as they often contribute to strained relationships and toxic environments.

PTED often begins with a significant life event that is perceived as unjust or unfair. The sufferer experiences a range of negative emotions, including anger, resentment, and bitterness. These emotions are persistent and can lead to a reduced quality of life, impaired relationships, and decreased productivity.

The negativity associated with PTED not only affects the sufferer but also impacts others around them, leading to increased conflict and a toxic environment. Recognising these effects is crucial for addressing the broader impact of PTED.

The solution to PTED involves transforming the negative thought patterns that lead to Embitterment Disorder into positive thought habits that foster Rational Optimism. This process begins by gaining a deep understanding of the mental habits that underlie PTED and learning to shift these patterns towards a more positive, goal-oriented outlook.

This session will focus on the concept of Rational Optimism, teaching delegates how to consciously replace negative thoughts with positive ones, leading to improved emotional resilience and a more balanced, optimistic mindset.

We all have mental habits that shape our thoughts and feelings. In this session, delegates will identify and modify the negative mental habits that contribute to PTED. The focus will be on creating new, positive habits that result in Rational Optimism, a mindset that promotes emotional resilience and a more positive outlook on life.

This session also covers the concept of the self-fulfilling prophecy, demonstrating how our beliefs and feelings can influence our results. By shifting from negative to positive thought patterns, delegates will learn how to create positive outcomes in their personal and professional lives.

This session explores the four categories of thought and feeling that contribute to PTED: Past Bad Thinking, Future Bad, Past Was Better, and Today and Future Good Thinking. Delegates will learn how to identify these patterns in themselves and others, and how to shift towards the more positive, solution-focused mindset of Rational Optimism.

The session will include practical exercises to help delegates practice shifting their focus from negative past experiences to positive future goals, helping them to develop a more balanced and optimistic outlook.

Killer Questions are a set of unconscious, habitual evaluative questions that focus the mind on perceived past wrongs, injustices, and mistakes, leading to feelings of bitterness, anger, and victimhood. In contrast, Problem-Solving Questions (PSQs) are conscious, habitual evaluative questions that focus on learning from mistakes, setting goals, and making decisions to improve the current situation.

This session will focus on practicing the use of PSQs to replace Killer Questions, with the goal of achieving the mindset of Rational Optimism. Delegates will engage in practical exercises to help make this shift from negative to positive thinking a new subconscious habit.

PTED often manifests as maladaptive behaviours such as aggression, disruption, and uncooperativeness. This session explores how these behaviours are rooted in a maladaptive psychology and the importance of managing them effectively to prevent further conflict. Understanding the underlying causes of these behaviours is crucial for effective conflict management.

Delegates will learn how to identify the signs of PTED-related behaviours and how to approach these situations with empathy and understanding, reducing the likelihood of escalating conflicts.

In this session, delegates will learn Rational Conflict Management Skills, focusing on the importance of addressing behaviour rather than attacking the individual’s identity. The training will cover four ways to handle conflict, highlighting that only a rational approach works effectively in resolving conflicts.

Delegates will also explore the use of objective versus subjective language in conflict situations, learning how to communicate in a way that minimises emotional escalation and promotes constructive resolution.

This session provides practical training on scripting conflicts using the Rational Conflict Management model. Delegates will practice scripting conflicts in ways that maximise their chances of changing behaviour and achieving positive outcomes. The session includes exercises to apply the material and learn by doing.

Delegates will also learn to distinguish between reasons and excuses, and how to respond effectively to each. This knowledge is crucial for maintaining a constructive approach to conflict resolution.

In conflict situations, how we communicate can significantly influence the outcome. This session focuses on the use of positive speech habits, voice tones, and body language to manage conflicts effectively. Delegates will learn the correct use of volume, pitch, and pace, as well as body language techniques such as eye contact, posture, and gestures.

The goal is to ensure that even when delivering difficult messages, the communication is clear, calm, and conducive to positive conflict resolution.

Positive reinforcement is a key strategy in managing PTED-related behaviours. This session focuses on the importance of giving verbal praise, thanks, and appreciation for any positive behavioural changes made by PTED sufferers. Delegates will learn how to use appreciation and praise to encourage continued positive behaviour, contributing to a more harmonious work environment.

In the final session, delegates will apply all the material covered throughout the course through practical exercises and role-playing. The session culminates in the creation of a detailed action plan, outlining how delegates will implement their new skills and knowledge in their daily work and life.

This action plan is designed to ensure that the learning from the course is effectively applied, leading to lasting positive change in both personal and professional contexts.