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How to Build Confidence as a Leader Manager

How to Build Confidence as a Leader Manager

How to Build Confidence as a Leader Manager

You can build your confidence as a leader manager by taking the following steps.

  1. Recognise that nobody knows how you feel, unless you tell them.
  2. Fake it till you make it.
  3. Change the way use your body language.
  4. Change your speech habits; create new scripts.
  5. Change the way you think about yourself; create a new self-image.
  6. Become an expert at what you do.

1. Recognise that nobody knows how you feel, unless you tell them.

Nobody can read your mind. The only way they know how you feel is by what you say and do.

And you can change what you say and do.

Everyone knows that the way a person feels, changes the way they behave.

But what you may NOT know is that it works the other way around.

The way you behave changes the way you feel.

In other words, you can use a change in your behaviour as a lever to change your emotional state.

It is possible to, "fake it till you make it".

2. Fake it till you make it.

Your mind and body are one integrated system.

One affects the other.

If you don't feel very confident, you can manufacture confidence, by acting as if you were confident.

Slowly, over the days and weeks, if you act confidently, you will begin to feel more confident.

And because most people you know cannot mind-read you, they will have no reason to believe that you are lacking in confidence.

They will take your performance on face value and will judge you to be more confident than you feel you are.

That is a good starting point on which you can build real self-confidence.

3. Change the way use your body language.

The first and easiest thing to change is your body language.

Confident people stand, sit and walk differently to timid people.

Confident people stand straighter; they sit up straighter; they walk faster; they look you in the eyes and they dress smarter than those who lack confidence.

You can simply follow the same formula:

  • Stand tall.
  • Sit up.
  • Walk fast.
  • Dress smarter.
  • Give eye to eye contact.

Then everyone will assume that you have the confidence you appear to have, and interestingly, you'll soon start feeling it too.

4. Change your speech habits; create new scripts.

The next stage in the master plan, is to change the way you talk.

Rather than telling people what you cannot do, tell them what you can do.

Rather than telling people what you fear, tell them what you want to achieve.

Rather than telling people what qualities you lack, tell them about the qualities you have.

Remember that nobody will judge you to be better than you claim to be. Though they may judge you to be worse.

Be cautious of making too many self-depreciating comments.

That does not mean "be a braggard". But rather, verbalise a high level of self-confidence, (even if you don't quite feel it yet).

Your feelings will soon catch up with your words.

5. Change the way you think about yourself; create a new self-image.

The next stage in the process, is to go deeper and to re-programme your subconscious mind.

Take all the positive things you've been saying out loud to others, (things that you don't necessarily believe) and start to affirm them to yourself, in the privacy of your own mind.

Do not accept self-depreciative, destructive self-talk. (eg "I'll never be able to do this!")

Replace it with a constant stream of appreciative and positive self-talk.

Say things such as, "I can achieve any goal I set my mind to".

6. Become an expert at what you do.

You are too intelligent to believe that a positive mental attitude is a cure for all life's troubles.

You realise that, to be more confident, you need to know more.

Nobody knows enough. A lack of confidence is often a result of realising that you don't yet know enough.

If you knew exactly what to do, you would feel more confident, wouldn't you?

So, put yourself on a professional reading programme.

Commit to reading at least one hour a day on your specialist field and become the most knowledgeable person in your company.

Becoming an expert will do wonders for your self-confidence.

Nothing is free. You have to pay for everything; and the price for more confidence, is more knowledge.

About the Author: Chris Farmer


Chris Farmer is the founder of the Corporate Coach Group and has many years’ experience in training leaders and managers, in both the public and private sectors, to achieve their organisational goals, especially during tough economic times. He is also well aware of the disciplines and problems associated with running a business.

Over the years, Chris has designed and delivered thousands of training programmes and has coached and motivated many management teams, groups and individuals. His training programmes are both structured and clear, designed to help delegates organise their thinking and, wherever necessary, to improve their techniques and skills.

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