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How to Find the Good In Any Situation

How to Find the Good in any Situation

How to Find the Good in any Situation

The diagram below shows that your personal experience of a situation, is made up of five elements:

  1. The facts of the situation.
  2. What you were able to perceive. What you saw, heard, touched, tasted, or smelled.
  3. Whether or not you identified the facts correctly?
  4. How you evaluated the situation. Did you evaluate the facts logically or illogically?
  5. How you respond to the situation. Did you respond in an adaptive progressive manner or not?

Personal Effectiveness : How to Find the Good in any Situation

The fact is not inherently good or bad.

  • Nothing is inherently good or bad. It depends on what you think of it; and how you respond to it.
  • Winning the lottery is not inherently good or bad. It depends on how you think of it; and how you respond to it.

Shakespeare wrote:

"....there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so........Nothing is really good or bad in itself - it's all what a person thinks about it." [Hamlet act 2 scene 2]

Implications of Hamlet's point.

  1. It is not the facts that are good or bad. It is your EVALUATION of the facts that makes a situation good or bad.
  2. And it is your RESPONSE to a situation that can be either good (adaptive) or bad (maladaptive).

So rather than accept the presumption that a given set of facts equals bad news, learn to re-evaluate the situation in the light of a more favourable set of questions.

You may want to review the situation.

"Upon reviewing, the situation,
Things don't always go the way that you have planned.
Upon reviewing, the situation.
It seems that things are getting badly out of hand.
If things are going wrong for you,
There's something simple you can do,
Don't try to wish the facts away
Just look at things another way,
And suddenly your life could be
One full of joy and pleasantry.
It's wonderful what thoughts can do,
If you would only, think it through.
Please stop! And think- it- over, once again.
Review, and think-it-over, once again."

How can you think it out again?

When things go wrong, ask yourself a different set of questions.

Here is a set you could try:

  • What is good about this?
  • What COULD be good about this?
  • How could we use this situation to our advantage?
  • "Every problem contains the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit". So, what is the seed of the equivalent benefit in our situation?
  • What can we learn from this situation? and...
  • How can we use that knowledge to our advantage in the future?

Imagine someone steals your car and trashes it. It is a write-off.

Run through the questions and please notice the effect on the mind of your listener as a result.

Please note: You don't have to stick to the order given above. You might want to change the order of the questions.

Try reversing the order. That might work better.

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