Your goals could make you rich
Question: "Why is it that some people are more successful than others?"
Why is it that, from a class of 30 school children, who were born and raised in the same town, in the same year, in similar circumstances, that a small minority (about two) of that class, will go on to earn more money, have more friends, enjoy greater levels of health and fitness, greater levels of happiness, than all the others who started off in the same place?
Why is it that some people do very well and that most people don't do very well?
What is the difference that makes the difference?
- Is it brains? - No
- Is it luck? - No
- Is it education? - Partially
- Is it personal contacts? - No
The ones who do very well are the ones who train themselves to become: Goal focused individuals.
This is a key phrase: Become a Goal focused individual.
The ones who do very well are the ones who; select a goal-commit to it - and stick to it - for as long as it takes, to win.
The ones who don't do well are the majority of people who are not; "Goal-focused-individuals".
- Most people are not goal focused.
- Most people are afraid to commit themselves to a long range, ambitious goal.
- Many people don't even know what their goals are!
What is your goal?
Note this: Everyone is defined by their goals.
You are defined by your goals.
To some degree, everyone has goals.
Even the village drunk has a goal.
Question: What is the goal for a drunk?
Answer: to get drunk!
But what is the quality of that goal?
What is the goal of a goal keeper?
To prevent the other team from scoring goals.
What is the goal of a millionaire business owner?
To make more millions.
Here is an important point
Everything is defined by its goal.
You are defined by your goal.
Everything is defined by its goal
Q. What is the goal of an apple tree?
A. To produce apples.
Q. What is the goal of a knife?
A. To cut (apples?).
Everything is defined by its goal
Every internal organ in your body has a specific goal.
Question: What is the goal of your lungs?
Answer: To exchange carbon-dioxide for oxygen.
To repeat the question:
- What is your goal in life?
- What is your purpose?
- What are you for?
Are you thinking that your goal is to be "rich, successful and happy"?
Whenever I ask that question: "What is your goal", I often hear the same two answers:
- "I don't know"
- "To be rich, happy and successful"
Are these good answers?
No. They are not good answers, because they do not really answer the question.
To the person who says "I don't know":
What happens to the people who don't know what their goal is?
- They usually end up working for the people who DO know what their goal is; or
- They drift into the first opportunity that pops up. I.e. the course of their lives is driven by random chance.
What is wrong with this statement "My goal in life is to be rich, happy and successful".
The above statement sounds good. But it is not a good answer.
Because it does not properly answer the original question.
Because your next question would have to be; "What would have to happen for you to feel rich, happy and successful"; which is a restatement of the original question.
How do you define rich happy and successful?
We need to get clear on our terms.
If we define "success" as:
"The achievement of a worthwhile goal".
And if we define "happiness" as
"An emotional state we feel whenever we think we are making progress towards, or have achieved a worthwhile goal".
Then we can see that a worthwhile goal is an integral component of both happiness and success.
From the above, you can draw the following three conclusions:
- You will only feel truly happy, if you feel you are working towards a worthwhile goal.
- You will always feel unhappy, if you feel you are not working towards a worthwhile goal.
- You should have a nice set of worthwhile goals.
Success is the achievement of a worthwhile goal
Think of some of the people who seem successful.
Is it not true that they have all achieved worthwhile goals?
Arnold Schwarzenegger seems to me, to be a successful chap.
Has he achieved worthwhile goals?
- In the 70s, as a bodybuilder: Mr Universe 5 times, Mr Olympia 7 times.
- In the 80s and 90s as an actor; the highest paid and highest grossing Hollywood film actor.
- In the 2000s as a politician; the governor of California for two terms.
- In addition: Arnold is a bestselling author; a property investor; a prison reform campaigner; a campaigner for the Special Olympics (even before it was fashionable).
Is Arnold a Goal focused individual?
Quote from Arnold, on the issue of goals; hear him:
"The mind is incredible once you have gained mastery over it.
By channeling its powers positively for your purposes, you can do anything".
The secret is to make you mind work for you-not against you. This means constantly being positive, constantly setting up goals; challenges that you can meet; either today, next week or next year.
'I can't', should be stricken permanently from your vocabulary; especially the vocabulary of your thoughts.
You should see yourself always as growing and improving.
Happiness is the emotion you feel when you know you are working to the achievement of a worthwhile goal
Happiness is a state of mind.
Happiness is NOT a direct reflection of pleasant external circumstances.
For example: you can think of instances of people who lived in pleasant external circumstances but who still found it difficult to feel happy.
Example: Elvis Presley
Quote from Elvis
The image is one thing and the human being is another.
It's very hard to live up to an image.
I get sad; sometimes I get lonesome right in the middle of a crowd.
And you can think of the opposite case
You can think of people who had to endure harsh conditions, but still seemed happy:
You might think of Marie Curie (the Polish chemist and physicist who led the discovery of new radioactive elements: She was awarded the 1903 Nobel Prize for Physics. She was also winner of a second Nobel Prize in 1911, this time in Chemistry).
Marie Curie once wrote:
Often, I had to prepare our lunch in the shed, so as not to interrupt some particularly important operation.
Sometimes I had to spend a whole day mixing a boiling mass with a heavy iron rod nearly as large as myself.
Devoting our entire days to our work I would be broken with fatigue at the day's end.
Yet it was in this miserable old shed that we passed the best and happiest years of our lives.
Indeed: Happiness is a state of mind
It is directly related to goals, in two ways:
- Happiness is the emotion that flows from the realisation that you are making measurable progress towards worthwhile goals.
- Happiness is the emotion that flows from the realisation that you have achieved the goals that you set for yourself.
What is a goal?
The dictionary defines a goal as:
"The purpose or end toward which effort is directed".
A goal is the cause of all human action.
Every movement you make is goal directed.
This applies to those actions that are trivial, such as making a cup of tea, as well as to those actions that are important, such as getting married or starting a business.
The goal is the idea behind the action
But there are two questions to ask about the goal:
- What is the clarity of the goal
- What is the quality of the goal
What is the clarity of the goal?
Your goals need to be clear and distinct; you must be able to see them in your mind's eye.
What is the quality of the goal?
Your goals need to be BIG enough to inspire you to take action.
Your goals need to be "Worthwhile".
Worthwhile means that your goal should make the world a better place and do not violate the rights of others!
If you wrote: "Within the next five years I want to achieve World domination and the enslavement of mankind". It is indeed a clear and distinct goal; but it is not a worthwhile goal because it violates the rights of others.
Quote from Adolf Hitler
"Any purpose that is NOT the intention to wage war is senseless and useless".
What happens to a person who commits to a goal
Let me ask you to think about the answer to a good question:
Question: What are the beneficial psychological, emotional and behavioral changes that occur to any person who commits to the achievement of a long range, worthwhile goal?
That is a good question!
In the U.K, we recently witnessed the Olympic Games.
We witnessed Olympic champions realise the achievement of their highest goals and ambitions
And we have relished the sight!
We are inspired by the idea of achievement
Therefore the best thing we can do to inspire others to succeed is to demonstrate, through our own actions, that success is possible.
Olympic champion Jessica Ennis
Champions such as Jessica Ennis and Mo Farrah have achieved world fame, fortune and admiration by virtue of the fact that they achieved their goals.
Is Jessica Ennis a Goal focused individual?
When she was only 15 she decided on her goal.
Hear her speak:
"I see my body as a training tool.....
I was around 15 years old when I first decided I wanted to compete in an Olympics.
I remember the first time I got to wear a GB kit as a junior. I've kept it.
I wanted to experience that massive adrenalin rush when you step into a new stadium, all the more so when that Olympic Stadium is packed full of people waving British flags!
I see my body as a training tool and I feel good about it!"
Here is the Question again:
What are the beneficial psychological, emotional and behavioral changes that occur to any person who commits to the achievement of a long range, worthwhile goal?
Write your list here:
What happens to a person who never commits to a goal?
Now contrast this idea to think about the opposite.
What happens to a person who never commits to anything?
Think of poor Bob:
- He's never entered a single contest
- He never asks even if he can
- He's never had a big ambition
- He never knows if he is a man
- He's never lifted a single finger
- He never writes a single plan
- He always sneers at the front runner
- So he's never learned to be a man
Question: What are the detrimental psychological, emotional and behavioral changes that occur to any person who has never had the courage to commit to the achievement of a long range, worthwhile goal?
Write your new list here:
- butterfly minded
- not very happy
Ask yourself if you want those consequences too.
- You will only feel truly happy, if you feel you are working towards a worthwhile goal
- You will always feel unhappy, if you feel you are not working towards a worthwhile goal
- You should have a nice set of worthwhile goals
So sit down today and set your goals for the next six months:
- Set goals for your business
- Set goals for your health
- Set goals for your continued learning
Become a goal focused individual
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